Dear Sugar,
I need some advice on the correct and most gracious protocol on asking about a plus-one to a wedding. I am a bridesmaid in one of my dear friend's wedding. It's a destination wedding so I would love to bring my boyfriend as my date, however it's a very intimate wedding (family and close friends only), with a large reception to follow afterwards, back here at home.
I’ll be the first to admit it, if I’m going somewhere where I really don’t want to go, with someone I don’t want to be with or might not want to be with after all is said and done, I’ll set up a convenient/fake phone call from a friend about an hour and a half in, with a request to come pick them up. If I’m having a terrible time as expected, this is the perfect out, but if I’m having a blast, I can easily just tell her that I can’t get away — she'll know the code. It’s not my classiest move, but it saves me a lot of heartache, plus it saves my “date” any hard feelings.
Sometimes the best date is the one least expected, like when you meet an amazing guy and spend the entire night gallivanting through the streets. Then again, there’s nothing like your possible future beau planning a wonderful evening down to the smallest detail just to impress you. OK, I’ve never experienced either of these
dream dates, but I'd have to go with the totally spontaneous date as my pick.
When a new co-worker asks you to go see a show with him, using the company's box seat at a local venue, you say yes because you assume it's a group thing. When you find out that no one else is going, you’re very uncomfortable but you don’t want to assume it’s a date. You decide to just play it by ear and keep it really casual.
My friend made a deep, dark confession to me the other day. She told me that she made a profile on an
online dating site, and sat down nightly to peek at her potential matches in her inbox. She no longer has issues with online dating, but she's ashamed that instead of paying for the full service and actually giving it a try, she's checking out the basic profiles of the guys who might fit her ideals just to make herself feel better about her current (post-breakup) situation.
You recently met a guy while out with friends. He asked you out on date and it ended up going really well, but the sparks just weren't there. You guys have continued to chat via email for a few weeks, and as you get to know him better, the more you're convinced that he would be great for a friend of yours.
Are you attracted to the charmers? The guys who plan perfect fairy-tale dates? Or to someone that's more down to earth, someone who pays attention to getting to know you rather than what kind of date you're on?
You've been broadening your horizons when it comes to the guys you date because everyone says you're too picky. Things have been going better than you would have expected on your second date with a guy that you met through a friend. You actually end up back at his apartment one night, just talking, and as you guys begin to connect more, things start to get steamy.
Dating can definitely put a damper on your healthy lifestyle. All those drinks, popcorn at the movies, decadent dinners out, and late-night talks over gelato are bound to mess up your healthy routine.
I'm not saying you should forgo all that delicious food and never eat out, but why not throw some active dates in there as well?
I've met guys at bars, at the gym, heck, I've even let my mom set me up on a blind date! I've tried group dating, double dating, and I've heard many success stories about
online dating, and even speed dating.
The concept is kind of brilliant actually.
