Sex is a powerful tool. It's an act that you have the right to exercise when you see fit. When you're in a relationship, though, sex becomes a special bond that connects you with your partner.
Dear Sugar,
I met a cute boy at a law school function on Saturday night and after a few cocktails and dances, we ended up at a bar, just the two of us, and kissing ensued. It was lovely and he offered to walk me back to my apartment. (I insisted it wasn't necessary seeing as how we live on opposite sides of Manhattan, but the boy could not be dissuaded!) Though he never made it beyond my apartment doorway, we exchanged the cutesy "let's do this again soon" texts after he left.
Dear Steve,
I can't tell you how many times I've been out some place — like a bar or a restaurant — and I'll find out the guy that's been flirting with me and my girls is either married or in a relationship, what's up with that? Why do they even bother if they can't "swing through the ball" — so to speak? I feel like I need to preface every conversation I have with a man with "wait, do you have a girlfriend?"
DearSugar and Stuck in the Middle May need your help. She knows her friend's fiance has cheated on her, but she doesn't know if she should butt in and tell her the truth. It's a complicated situation, but what would you do?
Dear Sugar,
I met this guy in college and developed a major crush on him, but nothing ever happened. After graduating we kept in contact via email, then after a couple months, we met for coffee. We got to talking and he told me that he's been attracted to me for some time now, but informed me that he was in a relationship with someone else.
Yesterday I gave you
five things to be thankful for if you're single this Thanksgiving, but there are plenty of things to be thankful for if you're in a relationship too. If you need a reminder, check out my list below:
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You always have a “wingman” at family gatherings.
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You have someone to share your second piece of pecan pie with.
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You have someone to recap the night with.
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You have two families to celebrate the holiday with.
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You don't have to feel like the third wheel when you're with your coupled-up relatives.
What about being in a relationship are you thankful for this year?
Over the weekend I asked you all to tell me
how important sex is in your relationship, and I was surprised to see that it's an infrequent act for many of you. Sure, once the honeymoon period subsides, it's normal for that initial lust to die down, but if you're not connecting physically, there must be other ways you stay in tune with one another. So ladies, tell me, how do you keep the fire, passion, and intimacy alive in your relationship when you're not getting it on?
It might not be our best look, but we all have one: an orgasm face! Even if you've never seen your own, chances are you've seen your partner's — that unique mixture of deep concentration, relaxation, and release. But like I said, it's not always pretty, which could pose a problem while you're in the act of love-making.
Dear Sugar,
When I broke up with my boyfriend, I was devastated. We were head over heels for each other but things just weren't working out so we ended it. At one point when I was trying to get over him, I threw away all the pictures I had of him and us, all the CDs he made me, and anything that reminded me of him.
When in a relationship, some people adore
sex. They think about it often, have it a lot, and are into trying new
toys, positions, and
places to make it better. Then there are other people in relationships who aren't that interested in getting it on.
